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Have you ever felt overwhelmed by responsibilities that you are carrying—responsibilities that you know deep down are not yours to carry—due to fear, resentment and/or guilt?
Have you avoided uncomfortable feelings by distracting yourself with food, social media, TV, movies, alcohol, porn, chaotic relationships or something else?
Would you like to learn how to deal with previous emotional wounds as well as prevent future injury?
This easy to read and implement book will show you how to get emotional wisdom. I will teach you 7 biblical strategies to heal emotional wounds and prevent future injury in the battle for your soul. As a Christian psychiatrist, I can tell you that these strategies really work!
· Examine your thoughts and beliefs for common lies that the enemy has used to keep you bound up, and learn how to detect and disarm these lies going forward.
· Discover valuable ways to manage your thoughts and feelings in a God-honoring way.
· Learn how and why to let go of responsibilities that are not yours, so you can walk in freedom and peace rather than in fear and resentment.
· See how your thoughts and words affect your identity, relationships, feelings, health and behaviors.
· Develop valuable skills like: when, why and how to say no; taking out the garbage; THE FLIP Method; how to change the channel in your mind; & praying out.
· Set yourself up to make better choices.
· Understand that godly self-care is NOT selfish.
Get Emotional Wisdom has been designed to help you learn how to improve your emotional health, which will impact your entire life. This book is for Christians who struggle with people pleasing, overcommitment, overwhelming feelings, pessimism, distraction from purpose, emotional avoidance, negative thinking, and the relationship problems that accompany these characteristics.
What is stopping you from getting emotional wisdom?
"I find the book to be interesting, confirming and a source of helpful strategy for emotional healing. The fact that you, a Christian Psychiatrist, have used these tactics in your practice, is a 'major plus.' It will be an asset to churches and ministries throughout the world."
Tommy Briggs, Sr.
Associate Pastor, Gateway Church, Southlake, TX
To Wield according to the Mirriam-Webster Dictionary:1. chiefly dialectal: to deal successfully with; manage2. to handle (something, such as a tool) especially effectively3a. to exert one's authority by means of (i.e., wield influence)3b. to have at one's command or disposal
Did you know thatour thoughts and feelings can be used as a weapon against usif we don't learn how to use them well?
I'll teach you how your thoughts and words affect your identity, relationships, feelings, health and behaviors.
You'll evaluate what is going into your mind and identify cognitive threats--common lies you may believe.
We'll take a deep dive into your identity and what you believe about yourself.
Strategies this section:
#1 Feed Your Mind
#2 Guard Your Words
#3 Test Your Thoughts
Skills this section:
Change the Channel in Your Mind
War Through Worship & Music
Part 1 is the foundation for the rest of the book. As my pastor Jeff Oakes says, we don't know when we are being deceived. We must be able to speak truth to ourselves and others.
You will come to see the importance of feeding your mind Truth!
Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to detect and disarm the enemy's tactics that have bound you and get emotional wisdom, which will lead to your emotional FREEDOM!
To Wrestle according to the Mirriam-Webster Dictionary:1: to contend by grappling and striving with an opponent2: to combat an opposing tendency or force (i.e., conscience)3: to engage in deep thought or debate4: to engage in a violent or determined struggle (i.e. with cumbersome baggage!)
It took me over half my life to learn this truth: feelings can lie...and often. In this section, I will take you through common ways we handle our feelings and thoughts that ultimately lead to more problems for us.
You'll look at ways you may be playing hot potato with your feelings in order to avoid them, paying special attention to numbing as it's so common and yet ultimately hurts us more.
We'll also begin building an emotional vocabulary and explore Jesus and how He dealt with emotions while He dwelt among us.
#4 Find Your Feelings
#5 Face Your Feelings
#6 Focus On What's True
Get Battle Ready
Take Out the Garbage
By now, you are starting to detect some of the enemy's schemes and you have learned to use some valuable coping skills. You've also learned about self-care, which is critical to your mission for FREEDOM.
Self-care, as you'll see by this point in the book, is not selfish (as many of us were inadvertently raised to believe...).
To Withstand according the to Mirriam-Webster Dictionary:1a. to stand up against; oppose with firm determination; especially to resist successfully1b. to be proof against (i.e., resist the effect of withstanding the impact of a landing)2. to stop or obstruct the course of
In this final section, we will continue our mission toward emotional wisdom and freedom by adding a final tactical area: Boundaries.
We will examine our inner circles, those people with whom we spend the most time. We have been sealing up cracks in our protective armor in the previous sections, and this area adds a layer of insulation.
Strategy this section:
#7 Build and Maintain a Healthy Inner Circle
This is also where we will put everything together, in Part 3.
How, Why & When to Say "No"
THE FLIP Method
Write Your Story
At the end of this book, you will be able to detect and disarm the enemy's tactics that have bound you, and you will have greater emotional wisdom.
You will be able to see many of the lies for what they are, and have closed some doors and windows in your life that were previously open to attack.
You will be actively engaging in God-honoring self-care, which will help with boundaries and your inner circle, and will set you up to make better decisions.
There is FREEDOM in TRUTH!
"I feel as if I'm sitting here having a conversation with you, rather than reading a book...I feel very confident after lots of prayer and searching through my past feelings that I can see where this all stems from...It’s really amazing to see how easy it is to work through once you realize it and how to deal with it!"
The Word Implanted"Therefore, putting aside all filthiness and all that remains of wickedness, in humility receive the word implanted, which is able to save your souls." – James 1:21, NASB
Dr. Caroline Leaf is a cognitive neuroscientist with a PhD in Communication Pathology specializing in Neuropsychology. In her book Think and Eat Yourself Smart, she discusses this same concept the apostle James brought up: the word implanted. Only she explains from a scientific standpoint, that “Once a thought is planted and becomes a habit in your non-conscious mind, it will shape your perception of anything related to that thought…What you have stored in your non-conscious mind will shape your perception of reality.” 
Here’s one of my favorite examples of this.
Many of you are probably familiar with the movie saga Star Wars . In Episode III, the one in which Anakin becomes Darth Vader, a word (or “thought,”) is planted in Anakin Skywalker’s mind. It’s a destructive word, and we watch it play out in this young man’s life. I have to admit, it wasn’t until I watched this episode that I actually got Star Wars. But upon seeing the transformation in Anakin, it suddenly made sense.
You see, Anakin trusted Senator Palpatine. The young man had allowed the Senator into his inner circle. (We’ll look at this in the last part of the book.) So when Senator Palpatine planted a word by telling Anakin that the Jedi were not on his side and could not be trusted, Anakin believed him.
And Anakin, due to this word of distrust planted in his mind, failed to turn to anyone else in his inner circle. Both his wife Padme and his mentor Obi-Wan tried to help him combat this false word, but they were unable to get through to him.
Palpatine, who was actually a Sith lord, used manipulation to sow that word deep into Anakin’s mind and it became the source of Anakin’s feelings of betrayal and hate…which led to more thoughts of deep distrust for the Republic…which then led to outwardly depraved behavior (e.g., Anakin killing the Jedi, even the younglings). We watched Anakin turn into a monster because he failed to protect his mind.
This is exactly what Jesus was talking about in Matthew 5 when He spoke about sin being born in the heart (which includes the mind, will and emotions). And it all started with a “word implanted” as the apostle James spoke of. Now, James was speaking of a good word (the Gospel message of Jesus Christ), but it’s important to remember that implanted words can come in many forms: good or bad, direct or indirect, honest or deceptive.
Our brains are malleable, meaning they can change. The more we think about something (like a word or words implanted in our thoughts), the more we will desire it and/or believe it. This is a basic educational concept. What we put in our minds matters.
...When words (or thoughts) are implanted, they can become part of our character, the driving force behind how we see ourselves (our identity), which can be based on truth or lies. These implanted words can come from anything in our life history, and can be accurate (true) or totally misperceived (lies). Our identity then influences the core of who we are and how we interact with others, how we see the world, our personality and our choices—for better or worse...
 2016 Dr. Caroline Leaf, “Think and Eat Yourself Smart: A Neuroscientific Approach to a Sharper Mind and Healthier Life.”
 2005 Star Wars Revenge of the Sith, George Lucas.
You were willing to be vulnerable and then share the resources and practices that have helped you and can bring freedom to others. I thank God for you and your willingness to be used by Him to share the message of this book with others.
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